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I need to say it...
mood: 
bored
boredI am not a lesbian because I cannot get a man. I am not a lesbian because I cannot find the "right" man. I am not a lesbian because I want to be deviant. I am not a lesbian because I'm afraid of men. I am not a lesbian because I want to be a man.
At this very moment in time: 4:29pm, Tuesday, January 6th I know at LEAST 3 guys who would date me at the drop of a hat. Not to mention the ones I don't even know who want to simply "do" me. I have found the "right" man, he just also happened to BE a man, which made him the "right" man, but the "wrong" person. If I wanted to be deviant, I could do that being straight (with one hand tied behind my back.......well, both hands tied behind my back and a ball gag, but that's a different story). I am not afraid of men. In fact, I would much rather date men because they are both sane and logical most of the time whereas women tend to fail in that department. But I don't. I also don't want to be a man, heavens no, I like my vajayjay and boobs and life and softness and curves probably more than any person who could date me.
Sorry for all this...it sprang from reading (of all things) Lindsay Lohan's response that her and Sam broke up. I was reading the comments underneath and they made me infuriated.
In the same way I get infuriated when someone bisexual calls themselves "half gay". No...you're not "half gay", you're bisexual. It's a completely separate and just as unique and special thing, but it's not "half gay". *sigh* Being gay, as being straight, is a preference of genitalia and sex (sometimes gender) of the partner they choose. Bisexual breaks that wall, which I think is very different and sometimes I wish I could do it. Not to mention that all the bisexual people I know are actually pansexual, which breaks down more walls than bisexual. All I'm saying is don't try to claim something that isn't relevant...be a unique individual and understand that bisexual is more than "half gay". We are all under a nice little LGBT umbrella, but we're all individuals with different struggles and different biases. We should all help each other, but lets not take anything from anyone else by elbowing our way into what is theirs.
lolz.
but I'm totally half gay,Kat! not really. I'm just a boy who happens to be attracted to any kind of person, regardless of what's in their pants or skirt or other clothing item. But I still like calling myself a "half-mo" because it's fun to say. :-)
You know, I don't really feel robbed at all when anyone identifies themselves as anything. I'm secure enough in my own identity not to feel offended by the identities (or proclamations thereof) of others.
Maybe I'm just weird or lack a certain amount of pride in my unique and special sexuality, but I can't really get mad about the choices others make when those choices don't actually affect me in any way.
I guess what I'm trying to say is I find labels to be, oh how can I put this. . . sheltering?
You get to be part of something. You don't have to feel alone anymore.
And I don't really need that, though there was a time I did (ie, a few years following coming out). I think most people eventually reach a point "I'm gay (or straight or whatever)" takes a backseat to "I'm [name]."
They want her to be straight because somehow, that means they might have a shot at her.
Funny. Of the bisexuals that we mutually know, I would only describe one or two as 'pansexual'. And I'm a little insulted on the behalf of the bisexuals I know that you would throw them all under the name pansexual.
To me, pansexual denotes indiscrimnating attraction to all sexes and genders, regardless romantic status - ie, being both bisexual and polyamorous in a sense that they make very few romantic relationships or are morally blind to the existence of standing relationship their partners might have. Most of the bisexuals I know (which includes some that you know) don't fall under that definition.
I'm curious, what is your definition of 'pansexual' that "all the bisexual people" you know fits under it?
Pansexual to me means that they will be in a relationship to any person regardless of gender or sex. It has nothing to do with the state of the relationship (polyamorous, monogamous), but just who can be IN the relationship. It includes all variations of gender or sex, whereas bisexual includes only two.
Ie. Trae is pansexual because he doesn't care if the person is man, woman, FTM, MTF, genderqueer, etc, he will date them.
Bisexual means to me only biological men and women are up for dating.